Wednesday, January 5, 2011
Third Post: Response to Kimmel's critique
I do agree with Kimmel's critique of Gray. Gray's notion of gender difference is the argument that men and women are so different that they are pretty much from different planets. I do not think that this is correct, because as Kimmel mentioned, on every social and behavioral trait the genders are more similar than they are different. I really enjoyed Kimmel's lecture, especially how he was able to go through different ideas about each gender and how they relate in society. He said that he believes that women are the ones that have changed over the years, and now expect more from the men. Women used to be in the home, being the housewife, but now that has changed and women want to be both in the home and holding jobs in the workforce. Men have always been able to go to work and then come home to the family, but now in this age that men need to share housework and childcare with the women for a better partnership. The women's place in society has changed over the years to become more like the men's place in society. As Kimmel said, and is seen in much of society today, the workplace and world has changed for men, but men still carry the same idea of masculinity. This will need to change, especially men's first rule don't be sissy, in order for men and women to be happy and communicate with each other. I really liked Kimmel's point that "we could end rape today in this country today if men made different choices with what we do with our bodies", as he really states that it is not just the women that need to work to work better with men, but that the opposite is true as well.
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I like the part of the blog where you talk about women and men needing to communicate. This is very true. Miscommunication is one of the biggest roadblocks of change.
ReplyDeleteYes, I did like the part about better communication. I think the thing that needs to happen for better communication is for some of those men to acknowledge that the are privileged instead of ignoring it. I feel like until that happens we will continue to have miscommunication issues. Its like what Kimmel said about being a good parent, its quantity time that will effect the change, not quality.
ReplyDeleteYeah, I agree with you both. Miscommmunication between the gender's is definitely an issue that many people need help with. I loved Kimmel's argument on quantity time, because I truly thing that is correct.
ReplyDeleteI loved the thing he said about the urinal splash guards that were printed with the words: "you hold the power to stop rape in your hand. Get it? That is sexual assault depends on the choices men make, the choices we make with our bodies. We could end rape in this country today if men made different choices about what we do with our bodies. The missing piece in our conversation about sexual assault, it seems to me, has been men’s choices, that men have some accountability
ReplyDeletehere. That men need to be brought in to this conversation because that’s the piece we frequently leave out by putting the entire burden on women’s self-policing." So very true, and work we must all struggle to bring into our everyday lives.
I also liked the urinal splash guards though I've never seen that on any urinal myself. Kimmel is right though, men need to make the choice to not rape and violate women. There needs to be way more accountability for men and their actions because it should be more than having a rape awareness course for women. They shouldn't have to be on alert about men raping them.
ReplyDeleteI think is completely true. I wonder who was the first to put the blame on a woman for him raping her. It's a horrible thought, but one that is all over society in the US.
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